Refuse to inherit dysfunction. Learn new ways of living instead of repeating what you lived through

— Thema Davis.

This episode in particular is going to be about the importance of breaking cycles, especially generational ones.

You all will probably get tired of me saying this but I feel the need to say it because we can all be our  biggest critic sometimes, but I am not perfect at all I’m just growing and learning. I’m human just like the rest of you and sometimes we fall short and we make mistakes. The thing is how we go about correcting our mistakes and that’s really what breaking cycles is all about. Cycles are events that keep repeating itself and in my case it’s the ones that are hindering, detrimental, and problematic. Cycles can be small or they can be large, but what’s important is acknowledging that they exist. Putting your awareness on the fact that there is an issue that needs to be corrected is the most powerful first step bc your awareness begins to shift. Bc in that moment you’ve decided for yourself that you’re not only going to take back control of your mind but your life.  Being conscious of that creates a ripple effect for greatness. Bc whatever that cycle maybe that you want to break whether its intergenerational trauma, anger, poverty, racism, hatefulness, self-doubt, inequity, etc you will begin to attract the things in your life that are meant for you. I’m going to say that again because I feel in my gut that was for someone who may have missed that but whatever that cycle is that you’re consciously trying to break you begin to attract things in your life that are meant for you. I’m talking about truth and abundance bc cycles take and take and they really beat you down, but abundance can not be beaten. Abundance comes in the form of people that you least expect to become your support system or what I view as my soul family. Abundance can also look like opportunity, but it can really be anything that you feel deep in your gut that you know has been placed in your life to heal the trauma to break cycle. And when you’ve been conditioned to be hurt by these things it becomes hard to trust the things that were divinely placed in your life. You believe that it is too good to be true and that you’re undeserving. We have to stop blocking our blessings because these cycles have to go and they have to be cleared.  But with divine timing when the cycle is being called to be broken you can only fight against it for so long until you just surrender to it and hit rock bottom. But I’ve grown to love rock bottom personally even tho it is painful because what comes down must come back up. You can only go up when you hit the bottom and you find so many answers when youre on the ground. It’s painfully beautiful honestly. 

I was watching this show on Netflix called living undocumented and there was this segment where this family was practing shabat bc they are from Israel. And the 17 year old girl began expressing herself at the dinner table with her family about how she was feeling about growing up undocumented and how her life was extremely difficult bc of it and she starts crying and aplogizing for it.. But her dad said something that stuck with me and he told her that it was therapy and that they never really got the time to talk about things regarding her feelings about her immigration status 

Before I explain why that impacted me so much I just wanna say fuck donald trump and that everyone should watch that series bc what this country is doing to the undocumented community is disgusting and hateful. No one should have to go through that and I just want to send my love out to all the undocumented people out there that maybe listening. Keep fighting bc you’re breaking cycle every fucking day and I respect that. Times will change cause these mindset wills shed and I really believe that there will be shift.

But back to what I was saying it was so powerful to see a man actually talk about how he wanted his daughter to speak on what she was going through. Bc he was a man saying this and a lot of yall men like to suffer in silence, which that cycle has to be broken as well. Him and her family were being there for her when no one else could be bc she couldn’t speak about her status to her friends or anyone really out of fear of deportation. Now for example imagine her not feeling comfortable enough to speak about that and her internalizing her feelings about that. An array of negative things could have potentially came from that, but what her dad didn’t realize that the small thing of him just allowing her to have that safe space to vent was him breaking cycles. Other families will watch this show and begin to see the positive impacts of allowing their kids to speak their truth breaking more cycles. I’m hoping people will see it and realize the work they are doing to fight the system matters and is justified bc they will be breaking cycles for immigrants all over. As a black person..

One of the most common things is that families in the black community do not like talking about things that hurt them bc I mean lets be real slavery and jim crow conditioned us to shut the fuck up and take whatever life throw as us. And yes everything regarding african americans will always go back down to slavery so don’t come at me unless you’re gonna come correct. 

But that shit ends right here with me because we are entering a new era where it okay to talk about our traumas and therapy should not be viewed as quote on quote white people shit as most of us have said in the past. I’m trying to create a space where honesty and truth  is held at the pinnacle of my existence. We have to be honest with ourselves about what we are feeling. We have to process that shit because our ancestors went through so much pain and we as black people owe it to them to heal that shit. Bc I’m telling you all the wave I’m on I’m gonna make sure that pain is healed. Bc when we heal that intergenerational trauma it starts to manifest in the physical. And to me that manifestation breaks the cycles of systemic oppression. I’m talking about black bodies being policed, profiled, discriminatio in housing, employment, pay, health care all of that shit is being broken. Like I get so moved by it because I see and feel the shift within me and I know that 2020 is the year for structural cycle breaking. So, I really say all of that just to give a glimpse into how much working on ourselves to heal our own personal issues benefits the collective. We are all so much stronger together than we are apart. 

Sending love to everyone who is trying their best to heal from the things they do not discuss. Thank you and That is Seven.